What is Sex Therapy?
And how can I find a sex therapist?
Whether we feel comfortable actually talking about it or not, sex is a major aspect of the human experience. It can be a source of immense joy, connection, and pleasure. It can also be a source of intense anxiety, fear, and shame. Whether you're struggling with physical issues, communication breakdowns, or how to reconcile your beliefs with an enjoyable sex life, there's help available (and you 1000% deserve it). Enter: sex therapy.
But what exactly is it? Think of it as therapy for your sex life, but with a whole lot less judgment and a whole lot more open communication. A sex therapist is like a friendly guide who helps you navigate the sometimes confusing world of intimacy. They're licensed mental health professionals who've gone through extra training to understand the emotional, physical, and psychological aspects of sex. Most importantly, sex therapists are there to support you, whether you're facing solo struggles or relationship roadblocks.
Here's the good news: sex therapy is for everyone. Whether you're single, partnered, straight, LGBTQ+, young, old, or anywhere in between, there's a sex therapist out there who can help you navigate your unique concerns.
So, what kinds of things can a sex therapist help with?
The list is as diverse as the people who seek help. Here are just a few examples:
Physical concerns: Erectile dysfunction, low desire, pain during sex, or difficulty achieving orgasm can all be addressed in sex therapy.
Emotional blocks: Anxiety, performance pressure, past trauma, or negative body image. It’s important to note that if you've experienced sexual trauma, it can have a lasting impact on your sex life and relationship with yourself. Sex therapists can offer support and guidance as you heal and reclaim your sexual health and desire.
Communication problems: Trouble talking about sex? Feeling unheard or misunderstood by your partner? Sex therapists can help you build healthy communication skills and create a safe space for expressing your desires.
Relationship challenges: Communication issues, differing desires, infidelity, or conflicts around intimacy. Sexual difficulties can put a strain on any relationship. Sex therapists can help partners explore their needs, build trust, and strengthen their connection.
Exploring your sexuality: Coming out, questioning your identity, navigating kinks and fetishes, or simply wanting to learn more about what feels good to you. Sex therapists can provide a non-judgmental space to explore your desires and identity.
Finding the right therapist:
Let's be honest, choosing a sex therapist can feel a bit daunting. But don't worry, it's like finding the perfect pair of jeans – it's all about finding the right fit! Here are some tips:
Ask around: Get recommendations from friends, family, or your doctor.
Check online directories: Look for therapists affiliated with organizations like AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists) or SSTAR (Society for Sex Therapy and Research). You can also use Tabu Wellness (aka this site) to find a provider that meets your needs!
Read bios and reviews: See if the therapist's areas of expertise and approach align with your experience and goals.
Consider your budget and insurance coverage: Some therapists offer sliding scale fees, and many insurance plans now cover sex therapy.
Schedule a consultation: Most therapists offer a free or discounted initial session to get to know each other and see if you click. During your first session, pay attention to how the therapist makes you feel. You should feel safe, respected, and understood.
Remember: A good sex therapist is someone you feel comfortable talking to about anything, even (and especially) the awkward stuff. They should be non-judgmental, supportive, and most importantly, they should make you feel heard.
So, if you're looking to unlock a happier, healthier, and more fulfilling sex life, don't hesitate to give sex therapy a try. It's an investment in yourself and your relationships, and the returns can be truly transformative.
Bonus tip
Sex therapy isn't just for "problems." It can also be a great way to enhance your existing sex life and explore new possibilities! So, whether you're looking for a tune-up or a total overhaul, sex therapy can be your secret weapon for a happier, more fulfilling sex life.
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